Over the last couple of months I have been working on focusing on myself and coming to terms with the fact that I am responsible for my own problems. During this time, I came to the realization that others are not responsible for my mood. I’ve realized that only I can control my mood. My reactions to others are caused by how what they say affects my mood, but what I have realized is that I am in control over those reactions. By controlling my reactions to others, I control my mood. Since coming to terms with the fact that I am in control over my moods, I have realized that others are in control over their own moods and that I have no control over how they react.
I tend to internalize the moods of those around me. They may react negatively to a certain situation, which stresses me out. I internalize this stress and think that it is on me to improve their moods. What I have realized is that just like I am in control of my reactions to others and outside situations, they are in control of their reactions to other people and outside situations. I shouldn’t go through life internalizing others issues. It is OK to separate myself from others if their mood is stressing me out. All I can do is try my best to let my positivity make them positive. If my positivity doesn’t help their mood, there’s nothing more I can do.
I am getting to a point where I believe it is OK to be selfish. I can let myself and my feelings come first. If others stress me out, it is OK to separate myself from them. My dreams and goals come first. As long as my intentions towards others are positive and I don’t put others down to get to my goals, then there is nothing wrong with putting myself first.