While I was reading “Girl, Stop Apologizing” I came across the quote below. This quote really inspired me. The reason I liked this quote so much is because I tend to try to focus on people’s intentions instead of their past decisions.
Who you are is defined by the next decision you make, not the last one.Rachel Hollis, “Girl, Stop Apologizing”
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve eaten something or said something that I regret. Afterwards, I spend so much time hating myself for eating too much or saying something stupid. Hollis’ quote inspires me to forgive myself for those actions. 99% of the time the time I ate too much or said something stupid is not going to affect my future. If I define myself by eating too much or saying something stupid, I will never become better. I need to forgive myself for eating way too much or saying something stupid and focus on the good decisions. Those are the decisions that will define who I am in the future.
Once I forgive myself for my past decisions, I can look forward to the future and the good decisions I am going to make. I need to define myself by my best intentions, not my past mistakes. If I can focus on other people’s intentions and forgive their mistakes, there is no reason I can’t look forward after I make mistakes.
Thinking about this quote gives me hope. It gives me hope that it is never too late to start fresh. Everyday we make decisions. Some of those decisions are good decisions, and some of those decisions aren’t so good. If we focus on forgiving ourselves for our bad decisions and focus on the next decision, that is where we start over. We need to focus on moving forward and define ourselves by what we are doing next. Don’t define yourself by that one time you did something stupid 5 years ago, define yourself by what you plan on doing next.